There is one thing us blokes are good at, and that’s suffering alone. That’s just part of our DNA. I’ve always found great personal satisfaction in accomplishing things on my own. How many times have you not asked for directions and won’t admit when you’re lost – we always prefer to find our own way home. And eventually, we do. Most of the time? And that’s fine; that’s our way.

Typically, this was me when I became a widower. It took me a long time to find the information I needed. I also happened to have a little bit of luck in stumbling upon certain people. I really hope some of the sites and organisations I’ve listed below will save you some time and speed up finding the right information.

You can apply for a Bereavement Support Payment from the government. I’ll be honest, it’s not great but it’ll at least help provide some financial support to you for a period of time after a loss.

Care for the Family has an array of informative support materials, including face-to-face support. I would highly recommend having a look through all the resources they have.

Life Of A Widower is a really helpful blog written by Ben Brooks-Dutton. Ben was an inspiration to me from the beginning. His posts are centred for men who have lost their significant other for natural or tragic reasons. The blog has wonderful articles that show about personal commitment and expressing love for those around you.

WAY (Widowed and Young) is the only national charity in the UK for people aged 50 or under. It’s a self-help group run by a network of volunteers offering a peer-to-peer support network for young widowed men and women.

Probably the most important organisation you’ll need if you’re a parent like me. Winston’s Wish is a childhood bereavement charity in the UK. The charity offers a wide range of practical support and guidance to bereaved children, their families and professionals. The charity currently supports 40,000 bereaved children and young people per year.